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Calling all small business owners
Published: 1st June 2020
This Article was Written by: Nik Moore - The Mindset Ninja
There’s more to the word “calling” than meets the eye
What is your calling?
I love this question: “Why are you on this planet?”
When I ask it in a coaching session I nearly always get the same response……silence. Silence followed by either a powerful answer or, more often, a question from the client which is “gosh, I don’t know, what do you mean?”
As the famous saying goes, the quality of any question is not in its structure, but in the answer it elicits.
Put simply, a good question is one that causes people to think about the answer. Answers that come too readily don’t come from the unconscious mind and it’s in the unconscious brain where true change lies.
To prove this, here’s one of my favourite phrases: when we do what we’ve always done we get what we’ve always got. We do the things that we’ve always done because of habits. And change comes from changing those habits. No surprise there. But what you may not realise is that change has to come from deep within the unconscious.
The coaching process lets you “see”. And what you “see” you can change.
Coaching is a process by which the coach asks the client lots of questions about the client’s life. Great questions get great answers. Answers that cause the client to think and reflect on their own life. That’s the process of going into the unconscious mind. Once the question is answered, the process of self-reflection will have brought something from deep inside the client to their front-of-mind. Therefore they can now “see” it. It’s no longer hidden away in the unconscious mind……and what we “see” we can do something about.
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So, back to the initial question. What is your calling?
In business so many of us don’t end up doing the job that we were supposed to be doing. We get forced into them through life circumstances. Perhaps you leave University. The clock is ticking. You need money. You take the first job that you think would interest you.
Perhaps you’re desperate to leave your firm because of a bullying boss. You can’t wait to get out. You leave and take one of the first jobs that comes your way because anything is better than your current job. Again, is it your dream job though?
But some people DO choose the right industry with the perfect job for them but sadly find out that there is a poor culture in their chosen company. And then it becomes easy to get stuck.
In both examples, unfortunately people find themselves in a job which doesn’t satisfy their calling in life. So here is a list of pros and cons when this happens:
Cons: what happens when you don’t connect with your calling at work
But when you DO find your calling, this is what can happen:
The importance of “living your calling”
The list above isn’t fiction by the way. These things really do happen. In fact I experienced many of these myself when I retrained many years ago as a coach.
I loved being a Conference and Video Producer but the work was becoming repetitive whereas coaching is a limitless vocation. By that I mean that you are working with a different client each time and their specific goals are unique to them. Thanks to their uniqueness they require a wholly different approach each time. But for me the “calling” that I get from coaching is that I can see people discover what their own calling is….. and then we work together for them to create new paths in their own life that lead to it.
What’s your calling?
So, the final question to ask is….what’s your calling in life and are you living it out right now?
If not, I’d love to catch up about how my career coaching work has hugely helped clients in the past.
Is it time for change in your own life? Please don’t hesitate to contact me where we can arrange a free 30 minute exploratory session online.